Veteran American comedian Jack Benny and George Burns are not only colleagues in show business, but it's also good friends. Friendship is an important element to achieve joy and fulfillment of life. A good friend will add to happiness, relieve suffering, becomes the handle when it is chaotic, a backrest when subjected to hard knocks in life, and as an anchor when the storm hit.
Ties of friendship to give one's purpose in life as well as the feeling that he's not alone. "There is no treasure more valuable than a good friend and loyal" so said the wise Socrates. Despite the obvious benefits of friendship, unfortunately, many women and men today have more feel no friends than people in previous generations. The poll results Yankelovic Daniel mentions, 70% of people claim to have many acquaintances but few close friends, causing a serious void in their lives. Although understanding the value of friendship, but it gets the friend was not easy.
You want a friend? Here are eight tips for getting good and loyal friend.
1. Trying always friendly
Friendship does not just happen but requires effort, planning and regulation. In looking for friends, must have the intention and determination. That is the courage to start first. For that we need to train yourself with perform the following actions:
Introduce yourself to new people in office, food shops, neighbors or in the classroom.
When the line at the grocery store or bank, begin to open talks with people near you.
Develop a dinner party a small, three to five people, and invite at least you know someone who has not been good.
When in public places over and was chatting with two or three strangers.
When you have a problem, meet some people in the office or your neighbors, especially not with with you and ask for advice.
1. Trying always friendly
Friendship does not just happen but requires effort, planning and regulation. In looking for friends, must have the intention and determination. That is the courage to start first. For that we need to train yourself with perform the following actions:
Introduce yourself to new people in office, food shops, neighbors or in the classroom.
When the line at the grocery store or bank, begin to open talks with people near you.
Develop a dinner party a small, three to five people, and invite at least you know someone who has not been good.
When in public places over and was chatting with two or three strangers.
When you have a problem, meet some people in the office or your neighbors, especially not with with you and ask for advice.
2. Accompany your friend in times of sadness and happy
Loyalty is an essential element of good friendship with one another occurs when each act as a buffer and an advocate. As a buffer, if he streamlined the experiences that are not good. As an advocate, if he increases the excitement. Do not let your loyalty to the concept of balance, limited only to encourage friends who are in misfortune. In moments of joy too, you have to come share the feeling with him.
Loyalty is an essential element of good friendship with one another occurs when each act as a buffer and an advocate. As a buffer, if he streamlined the experiences that are not good. As an advocate, if he increases the excitement. Do not let your loyalty to the concept of balance, limited only to encourage friends who are in misfortune. In moments of joy too, you have to come share the feeling with him.
3. Get used to being kind in everyday life
Like a sun that melt ice, be kind enough throughout the day able to eliminate the barriers and obstacles amongst. People who either never lacked friends. Basketball superstar Michael Jordan had become the most respected professional athlete. Turns out he was also very kind and generous.
4. Show genuine concern for others
"In two months you can make lots of friends with more attention to others rather than in two years you get people who pay attention to you," wrote author Dale Carnegie.
5. Try openness
There are various types of man who managed to establish friendship, young or old, male or female, professional or laborer. But they all have one equation, namely the ability to open and transparent with each other. Among each other know when they feel happy, hurt, disappointed, depressed, or excited. People who have strong ties of friendship with each other trying to open.
There are various types of man who managed to establish friendship, young or old, male or female, professional or laborer. But they all have one equation, namely the ability to open and transparent with each other. Among each other know when they feel happy, hurt, disappointed, depressed, or excited. People who have strong ties of friendship with each other trying to open.
6. Frequently praised
"Praise is like sunlight that warms the human soul. We can not be useful and grow without it. Meanwhile, we are generally only prepared to member criticism on others, but reluctant to give a warm compliment, "says psychologist Jess Lair.
Train yourself to see the good things in themselves friends. Recognize the talent, skill, and praise them. Compliments not only strengthen the bond of two people, but also can change lives.
7. Sorry if guilty
Apologize is a means to love each other. Once aware of having made a mistake and hurt feelings and hurt the feelings of friends, quick-quick to apologize. The expression of remorse as he assured that how much you appreciate your friendship.
8. Forgiving when abused
When the friend made a mistake, you forgive with generosity. Forgiveness not only keep the friendship, but also end the various obstacles that linger from the friend's fault.
When the friend made a mistake, you forgive with generosity. Forgiveness not only keep the friendship, but also end the various obstacles that linger from the friend's fault.
Friendships are like plants in the garden, it never dies away without reason. If there is a friendship die, surely one or both parties are guilty of not want to maintain. So, friendship is healthy, vibrant, and refreshing needs to be guarded and maintained carefully.
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